Tue 21 Aug 2007 @16:04
A couple weeks ago I happened to see this article on WebMD about the reasons people have sex. And then last week I saw that it was referred to in the weekly TMI Tuesday post that some of you do [stealing my thunder, but that's what I get for not posting as soon as I saw it...].
I think the most interesting thing in the summary was that eight of the top ten reasons given by men and by women were the same (but not in the same order). The top reason from both sexes was the same, “I was attracted to the person”. “It feels good” was second for men and third for women. I was a little surprised that “I wanted to please my partner” made the top ten from men because that reminds me of an old joke [as, if you've been here before you probably know, just about everything does].
Q: How does a REAL man bring a woman to orgasm?
A: Pfft. A REAL man doesn’t care….
I think the most scary part of the summary is in the nine broad themes into which they sorted the 237 reasons. One of those themes is “Sex just happening due to seemingly uncontrollable circumstances.” I’m hoping assuming that includes just feeling swept up in the moment, but I am really scared that there are people that think they have no control over the circumstances when they have sex. [Although, being something of a control freak I am scared by pretty much any activity if I can't control my circumstances.] I have done some foolish and dangerous things, but never did I think I had no choice in the matter. I simply chose to be really stupid. How’s that for control?
But now I relinquish control to you and your comments. I may be sorry I asked this [but I did choose to ask], what are your top three reasons for having sex?
August 21st, 2007 at 18:39
1. Cardiovascular workout.
2. Staving off boredom/ennui.
3. To create interesting blackmail photos, thus derailing political careers.
I did think that they spent an awful lot of money on a study to reveal that sexual activity feels good. The next study by this committee will probably deduce that chocolate tastes nice, and putting gasoline in vehicles makes them operational, and that cartoon characters are not real people.
But no element of this discussion is relevant if one hasn’t had sex in, say, two years, four months, three weeks, two days, and fourteen hours. Or something to that effect.
Hey, you asked.
August 21st, 2007 at 20:17
Q: How does a REAL man bring a woman to orgasm?
A: Pfft. A REAL man doesn’t care….
which is why i am divorced.
Obviously he was an idiot. But most men are idiots. Sometimes I think I should apologize on their behalf, except I am often an idiot too.
But , you DO know this is just a joke, right? ~Tim
August 22nd, 2007 at 06:12
Gosh… I didn’t realize I needed a reason. A man would help, but now I have to have a reason, too???
Nope, you don’t need one as far as I’m concerned. Um, I mean you don’t need a reason. But technically…. ~Tim
August 22nd, 2007 at 10:10
1. orgasms
2. orgasms
3. orgasms
I think that about covers it
August 22nd, 2007 at 18:44
why must there be a reason?!
the last time i had sex was because it had been awhile and i wanted to break the long drought. at this rate that will be the reason for the next time i have sex.
August 25th, 2007 at 20:12
1. To spoil my partner.
2. It makes me happy.
3. Which makes my partner happy.
You know, that full circle thing.
–snow
Yup, full circles are good things! ~Tim
September 4th, 2007 at 12:25
I think KCTerrilyn had the best answer:) But really, it feels good and b/c you love your partner and want to also make them feel good. It would be interesting if they’d divided that study between couples that were in love that have sex and those that might just have casual sex.
I agree on all counts. Wanna know something I found funny though? KCTerrilyn’s comment was flagged by the spam filter. Must have something to do with multiple orgasms…. ~Tim