On Loss

I have lost a friend. But it doesn’t feel real. Saying it out loud [or writing it here] does not make it feel real. And yet it is.

I have lost a friend. But the literal part of my brain [which is often -- and particularly, for better or worse, in personal relationships-- the dominant part] complains about semantics. It’s not like I set him down somewhere and forgot to pick him up. He left this world suddenly and unexpectedly.

I have lost a friend. But I understand. As much as our friends and family are a part of us, their passing leaves an empty space in us. That is our loss.

I have lost a friend. By coincidence it happened almost exactly a year after the loss of another friend. But it occurs to me that at my age, pretty much everything happens within a few days of the anniversary of some significant event.

I have lost a friend. And as much as I love all my online friends [and I really do] blogging and emailing and tweeting and such seemed far less important than my 3D world the last couple weeks.

I have lost a friend. And I hate when that happens.

lime says:

2011/05/27 at 00:39

the ambivalence over the terminology….yes, i understand….if only your friend were merely misplaced. my condolences.

Thanks, Lime. ~Tim

Helen says:

2011/05/27 at 04:25

I am very sorry for your loss.

Thanks, Helen. ~Tim

PJ Kaiser says:

2011/05/27 at 21:17

Tim – I’m very sorry for your loss. It’s true, once we reach a certain age, we start to collect sad anniversaries. The nice thing about Twitter is that we just talk amongst ourselves while you’re gone so we don’t get quite so lonely. You can take as much time as you need.

Thanks, PJ. ~Tim